Lesbian love stories of my life can be divided into two categories: consummated friends and ex-wives. I believe that a former lover’s continued role in my life is dependent upon the category into which she falls. “Consummated friends” is a term I apply for women with whom I share a friendship prior to and after a sexual relationship. My consummated friends (there are only a couple, honestly) and I happen to share anything between three days and nights of lovemaking one week in college to dating six months. Ex-wives, on the other hand, are women with whom I have lived as a committed couple. I have one ex-wife; she and I shared eight years of married life. Although many lesbians keep exwives in their intimate circles, I decided against this practice.