The function of this chapter of the recovery programme is to get you to actually think about which sexual patterns you find acceptable and which ones you want to leave behind. We are going to do this by preparing a ‘sex plan’. In the sex plan, you will be asked to divide your sexual behaviours into three categories: ‘OK’, ‘iffy’ and ‘not OK’. Behaviours that seem acceptable to you will be included in the ‘OK’ category. Sexual behaviours that you want to leave behind will be placed in the ‘not OK’ category, while the ‘iffy’ category will contain behaviours that you are not yet certain about. The sex plan is provisional and may need to be modified with time and experience.