In optimal development, a child is brought up in a family that respects the child’s needs and natural vulnerabilities. Even if the parents do not fully understand the child’s oral striving and the inherent mix of hostility, love, greed, and giving that children exhibit, they can respect these feelings. Acknowledgement, respect, and curiosity on the care-givers’ part leave a sense of being wanted and feeling safe and fulfilled in the child’s developing ego. This positive cycle can be seen with adult patients in the transference. If the analyst respects the patient’s day-to-day display of envy, despair, altruism, desire, competition, and so forth, and appreciates it all with curiosity, the patient usually feels cared for and is able to continue exploring him/herself in a vulnerable and honest manner.