You might have difficulty knowing who you are, especially if you are multiple, and have different insiders, each of whom has a different sense of identity. I have titled this chapter “Becoming yourself” because, for me, it is my most important goal with my clients. Every species of animal or plant has an essential nature. You cannot make a kitten into a dog, or a cedar seedling into an oak tree. Mind controllers try to make children, at least parts of them, into things of their design, rather than developing each child’s essential nature by providing the spiritual nutrients from which the child can grow into who he or she really is. If you have experienced mind control, either the systematic, organised kind, or just the programming provided by controlling parents and/or a society which wants people to be a certain way, you might have abandoned your essential nature in order to avoid pain or to please people whose acceptance of you has been essential to your survival.