ABSTRACT

It all started with my connection to my dreaming and my interest in the relations between the dream’s content and the relational context in which it is remembered and told. Two ‘events’ helped me to define my own thinking on dreamtelling (Friedman, 2008). The first was when my son was about three or four years old, and often woke up from what seemed to be a nightmare. His nocturnal cries made me jump out of my bed and rush into his room. He usually returned to sleep in a moment – while I was left worried, especially if this repeated itself in the same night. I learned from this ‘interaction’ about the non-verbal communication of anxiety and panic, and even more about the possibility that feelings can be shared between a dreamer and his audience. Later I understood that these are more familiar situations than we think. I called my son’s communication a ‘request for containment’; I understood that I was the ‘container-on-call’ and that there was a very deep relation between the two of us.