Nancy obtained a court order forbidding Michele from seeing or communicating with the children. Michele was fighting for access but was told that since lesbian marriages are not recognised she had no claim to the children. The San Francisco National Centre for Legal Studies had taken up her case, arguing that such cases should be resolved in the best interests of the child-that if a bond has developed then the relationship should be allowed to grow. Michele argued that though she is not related biologically,

There is more to being a father or mother than donating sperm or giving up an egg. We tried to show our children that parents can do all kinds of things. I was and am part of my daughter’s life.