Many years ago, when I was a novice clinician, I remember asking Jay for some advice about how to help a particular client I was seeing. I asked him directly what he thought I should do in treating her. Not really knowing Jay at the time and being blissfully oblivious as to how far off I was in my approach to him, I tried to impress him with my clinical acumen and mastery of diagnostic jargon. I asked him what he would do with this woman who I was sure had a dependent 256personality disorder with compulsive features, and who was anxious and dysthymic and engaged in avoidant coping behavior. Boy, was I barking up the wrong tree! He paused for what seemed a very long time before he kindly said, “Well, I wouldn’t let her have those problems!”