We will now focus some attention on children. Th is will include the child who is or appears to possibly be transgender, and also the child who has a transgender parent or some other person who is close. Most people have no idea how to talk with a child about such things. Th ey are fearful of saying the wrong thing and possibly harming the child. Th ey may even think it is best not to talk with the child at all about things like this. I believe that we underestimate the ability of children to understand, although they may do so in a simplifi ed way. I also think we tend to overestimate the risk to a child when it comes to talking about certain things. We project onto the child our own discomfort with a topic and assume that the child will be equally uncomfortable, when, in fact, it is our discomfort that is more likely to make the child uncomfortable.