Contextual theory and practice offer an alternative to power-based strategic models: a dialectical perspective that incorporates individual and relational criteria alike. The dialectical theory of relationship (BoszormenyiNagy, 1965a) finds its validity in an inherent, antithetical relation with and a will to a viable reciprocity that exists between a self and his or her relatit .~ partner. This contrasts with linear, one-sided, self-motivated, psychologl cal theories with their emphasis on individual needs for success, satisfaction and expediency. It also contrasts with circular, cybernetic models of rela-

tionships with their emphasis on system, transaction, control and structure. Contextual therapy holds that real progress lies in the genuine integra-

tion of all valid knowledge about both mind and system. A "system" cannot be made responsible if no participating person is willing to act responsibly. A dialectical view of relating considers each partner's vantage point on selfishness and altruism, but in fact transcends them. Most significantly, it operates out of the empirically-rooted conviction that the self and his or her relating partner create a personalized human order in the realm that exists between an "I" and a "Thou" (Buber, 1948, 1957).