When it comes to words about one's "self," however-and this is a big however-especially when the words are coming out of the mouth of one's analyst, "loving" them is a more complicated piece of business. It is not as simple as taking them in, rolling them on your tongue, and grasping a new piece of self-experience. The feeling "it is mine" that Hoffman so poignantly describes does not translate neatly into "it is me."