D uring this particular holiday season, knowing tha t I would be writing this chapter (illuminating the concept o f self-disclosure), my thoughts are inextricably bound up with ideas of who I am today and the ways in which the stories I had heard and told about my family had always shaped ideas o f who I was, and who I thought I should be. Throughout my life it had been taken as given that who you are is, at least in large part, the product o f from whence you came.