ABSTRACT
Remember the old Beatles’ refrain-will you still love me, will you still need me when I’m 64? But what if I need you when I’m 84? What if I have congestive heart failure and arthritis and can no longer bathe or cook or dress myself? What if I have Alzheimer’s disease and need basic support with almost all activities? I know Medicare will not pay for what is commonly called “custodial care.” Thus, I ask, “Will anyone be there? How will I pay for it? How will I simultaneously ask for the help I need while maintaining my self-respect?”
