ABSTRACT

In Chinese culture, a child is known to bear the bones and flesh of their biological parents (親生骨肉, Qinsheng-gurou). Pregnancy loss therefore means loss of an important piece of the bereaved couple’s future as well as the sense of control, assumption of fairness, anticipated uplifting moments, personal and relational goals, opportunities for personal transcendence, and social standing. For some women pregnancy loss seems as if her body has “failed her”, leaving her doubting whether her body is still a safe place to nurture a new life. Even though the loss happens at the neonatal phase, people other than the bereaved couple often fail to appreciate its impact. Unlike grieving for an adult or a child, the social sharing of grief is often precluded, and the bereaved couple is left on their own to heal (Lang et al., 2011).