Claire Abbott and Kevin Anderson have come to therapy for help with “communicating better.” Kevin has two children, Kendra and Katie, from a previous marriage. Claire and Kevin describe themselves as a blended family. “We thought we were blending,” says Kevin, sighing, “but it feels a lot more like blundering to me.” In their fi rst session, this is what their therapist hears:

Figure 1.1 The Abbott/Anderson family at 2 years (followed through seventh year).