Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege discusses how ex-boarders can be amongst the most challenging clients for therapists; even experienced therapists may unwittingly struggle to skilfully address the needs of this client group. It looks at the effect on adults of being sent away to board in childhood and the problems associated with boarding, which have only recently been acknowledged by mainstream mental health professionals.

This practice-based book is illustrated by case studies, diagrams and exercises and is divided into three parts: ‘Recognition; Acceptance; Change’. It aims to help readers understand the emotional processes of boarding and the psychological aspects of survival, outlining the steps toward recovery and the repercussions of survival. The book also explores how ex-boarders frequently struggle with intimate relationships with spouses and partners and offers interventions and strategies for those working with ex-boarder clients.

Trauma, Abandonment and Privilege will be of interest to therapists, counsellors and mental health workers across the UK. It will also be relevant to those who are well acquainted with boarding schools based on the UK model, for example in Canada, Australia, New Zealand and India.

part 1|72 pages


chapter 1|13 pages


chapter 2|16 pages

What therapists can do

An overview

chapter 3|13 pages

Managing separation and loss

chapter 4|14 pages


chapter 5|14 pages

Signs, symptoms and relationships

part 2|68 pages


chapter 6|15 pages


chapter 7|17 pages


chapter 8|16 pages


chapter 9|18 pages


Puberty, gender and abuse

part 3|50 pages


chapter 10|18 pages

The healing process

chapter 11|14 pages

Unmasking survival patterns

chapter 12|16 pages