In contrast to the author's previous book, Healing the Unimaginable: Treating Ritual Abuse and Mind Control, which was for therapists, this book is designed for survivors of these abuses. It takes the survivor systematically through understanding the abuses and how his or her symptoms may be consequences of these abuses, and gives practical advice regarding how a survivor can achieve stability and manage the life issues with which he or she may have difficulty. The book also teaches the survivor how to work with his or her complex personality system and with the traumatic memories, to heal the wounds created by the abuse. A unique feature of this book is that it addresses the reader as if he or she is dissociative, and directs some information and exercises towards the internal leaders of the personality system, teaching them how to build a cooperative and healing inner community within which information is shared, each part's needs are met, and traumatic memories can be worked through successfully.

chapter 1|13 pages

Symptoms, memories, and evidence

chapter 2|13 pages

The struggle for healing

chapter 5|12 pages


chapter 6|11 pages

Sally from three perspectives

chapter 7|12 pages

Internal hierarchies

chapter 8|10 pages

Talking with the higher-ups

chapter 9|20 pages

Keeping safe from the perpetrator group

chapter 10|19 pages

Dealing with triggering

chapter 11|12 pages

Building inner community

chapter 12|19 pages

Coping with daily life

chapter 13|21 pages


chapter 14|14 pages

What about the memories?

chapter 15|19 pages

Putting together the traumatic memories

chapter 16|22 pages

Looking at your family

chapter 17|20 pages

Healing your sexuality

chapter 18|19 pages

Succeeding in friendships and relationships

chapter 19|24 pages

Therapy and therapists

chapter 20|28 pages

Overcoming spiritual abuse

chapter 21|24 pages

Becoming yourself