This is volume two of a three-volume set that brings together a rich collection of primary source materials on flirtation and courtship in the nineteenth-century. Introductory essays and extensive editorial apparatus offer historical and cultural contexts of the materials included

Throughout the long nineteenth-century, a woman’s life was commonly thought to fall into three discrete developmental stages; personal formation and a gendered education; a young woman’s entrance onto the marriage market; and finally her emergence at the apogee of normative femininity as wife and mother. In all three stages of development, there was an unspoken awareness of the duplicity at the heart of this carefully cultivated femininity. What women were taught, no matter their age, was that if you desired anything in life, it behooved you to perform indifference. This meant that for women, the art of flirtation and feigning indifference were viewed as essential survival skills that could guarantee success in life.

These three volumes document the many ways in which nineteenth-century women were educated in this seemingly universal wisdom, but just as frequently managed to manipulate, subvert, and navigate their way through such proscribed norms to achieve their own desires. Presenting a wide range of documents from novels, memoirs, literary journals, newspapers, plays, poetry, songs, parlour games, and legal documents, this collection will illuminate a far more diverse set of options available to women in their quest for happiness, and a new understanding of the operations of courtship and flirtation, the "central" concerns of a nineteenth-century woman’s life.

The volumes will be of interest to scholars of history, literature, gender and cultural studies, with an interest in the nineteenth-century.

chapter |22 pages

Introduction to Volume II

Female power and the rules of courtship

chapter 1|5 pages

Wetenhall Wilkes, A Letter of Genteel and Moral Advice to a Young Lady … (1740)

(London: C. Hitch, 1746), pp. 156–164

chapter 2|13 pages

The Lady's Magazine; or Entertaining Companion …, 6 (January 1775)

(London: G. Robinson, 1775), pp. 30–32, 189–192, 363–364, 294–296

chapter 3|5 pages

Vicesimus Knox, ‘On the Neccesity and Method of Encouraging in the Community the Prevalence of Virtuous Love’

Essays Moral and Literary (London: Charles Dilly, 1785), vol. 1, pp. 150–155

chapter 4|8 pages

Catherine Macaulay Graham, Letters on Education. With Observations on Religious and Metaphysical Subjects

(Dublin: Chamberlaine and Rice, 1790), pp. 112–117, 135–139

chapter 7|9 pages

‘Courtship and Marriage’

The London Magazine, 4 (January to April, 1826), (London, Hunt and Clark, 1826), pp. 37–44

chapter 8|5 pages


How to Woo; How to Win; and How to Get Married … (1838) (Glasgow: W.R. M'Phun, 1856), pp. 31–37

chapter 9|9 pages

Arthur Freeling, The Young bride's Book: Being Hints for Regulating the Conduct of Married Women

(London: H. Washbourne, 1839), pp. 26–48

chapter 11|68 pages

Charlotte Bury, The Manoeuvring Mother (1842)

(London: G. Routledge, 1858), pp. 1–83

chapter 12|12 pages

[Eugene Becklard], Physiological Mysteries and Revelations in Love, Courtship and Marriage

(New York: Holland & Glover, 1844), pp. 65–90

chapter 13|15 pages

T.E.G. The Etiquette of Love, Courtship, and Marriage

(London, Simpkin Marshall and Co., 1847), pp. 30–72

chapter 14|35 pages

Albert Smith, The Natural History of the Flirt

(London: D. Bogue, 1848), pp. 7–107

chapter 15|8 pages

T. S. Arthur, Advice to Young Ladies on their Duties and Conduct in Life (1849)

(London: J. S. Hodson, 1855), pp. 126–140

chapter 16|9 pages

The Etiquette of Love Courtship and Marriage. To Which is Added the Etiquette of Politeness (1850)

(Halifax: Milner and Sowerby, 1859), pp. 28–44

chapter 17|4 pages

The New Guide to Matrimony; or, the whole Art of Courtship …

(Newcastle-on-Tyne: Bowman, c. 1850), pp. 2–4

chapter 18|13 pages

Etiquette of Courtship and Matrimony: With a Complete Guide to the Forms of a Wedding

(London: David Bogue, 1852), pp. 20–46

chapter 19|17 pages

A Manual of the Etiquette of Love, Courtship and Marriage, by a Lady

(London: Thomas Allman, 1853), pp. 3–29, 43–50

chapter 20|5 pages

H.W.H., How to Choose a Wife

(London: Partridge, Oakey and Co., 1855), pp. iii–x, 40–44

chapter 21|7 pages

H.W.H., How to Choose a Husband

(London: Partridge and Co., 1856), pp. iii–xvii, 18–21

chapter 22|12 pages

Charlotte Bury, The Lady of Fashion

(London: Hurst and Blackett, 1856), vol. 1, pp. 33–65

chapter 23|19 pages

Etiquette for All, or Rules of Conduct …

(Glasgow: George Watson, 1861), pp. 23–63

chapter 24|10 pages

J.B.S., Anatomy of Flirtation: Being a Pathognomical Diagnosis of That Delectable Pastime

(Manchester: J. Heywood, 1886), pp. 3–15